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		<title>Andrew&#8217;s Big Fat Straight Wedding</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sometimes I wonder if I should treat this blog more like, well, a blog. I read so many great articles during the day and I think about sharing them with people, but I never bother linking them on this site. I have to share this, though: Andrew Sullivan wrote a great article for the Atlantic ]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sometimes I wonder if I should treat this blog more like, well, a blog.  I read so many great articles during the day and I think about sharing them with people, but I never bother linking them on this site.</p>
<p>I have to share this, though: <a href="http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/">Andrew Sullivan</a> wrote a great article for the <em>Atlantic</em> that attempts to <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200809/gay-marriage">describe how &#8220;straight&#8221; the concept of gay marriage has become</a>, especially for people of my generation and generations that have come after mine.</p>
<p>My favorite (and rather moving) part:</p>
<blockquote><div>It happened first when we told our families and friends of our intentions. Suddenly, they had a vocabulary to describe and understand our relationship. I was no longer my partner&#8217;s &#8220;friend&#8221; or &#8220;boyfriend&#8221;; I was his fiancé. Suddenly, everyone involved themselves in our love. They asked how I had proposed; they inquired when the wedding would be; my straight friends made jokes about marriage that simply included me as one of them. At that first post-engagement Christmas with my in-laws, I felt something shift. They had always been welcoming and supportive. But now I was family. I felt an end&#8212;<a href="http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/andrew_sullivan/article2283227.ece">a sudden, fateful end</a>&#8212;to an emotional displacement I had experienced since childhood.</div>
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<p>and this:</p>
<blockquote><div>Ours was not, we realized, a different institution, after all, and we were not different kinds of people. In the doing of it, it was the same as my siste&#8217;s wedding and we were the same as my sister and brother-in-law. The strange, bewildering emotions of the moment, the cake and reception, the distracted children and weeping mothers, the morning&#8217;s butterflies and the night&#8217;s drunkenness: this was not a gay marriage; it was a marriage.</div>
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<p>I sure as hell hope that if I ever have children or grandchildren, by the time I do they won&#8217;t even understand the concept of a difference between straight marriage and gay marriage.  We can all hope.</p>
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